Ep 120: Managing Your Mindset with Emily Getz of Day 1 Fertility
Fertility Forward Episode 120:
While navigating the fertility journey, women are encouraged to prepare their bodies for the intensive process of IVF. But equally important, is preparing your mind for the complex emotions and difficult challenges inherent to the process. Our guest today, Emily Getz, is the founder of Day 1 Fertility, a unique fertility network designed to support those struggling to bring home a baby. She is also a certified fertility, pregnancy and infant loss coach, Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) practitioner, and fellow fertility patient. In our conversation with Emily, she opens up about how she was impacted by her late-stage pregnancy loss, what she has learned about how your mindset can affect your fertility outcomes, and why she is on a mission to redefine the fertility journey. She shares how getting a life coach enabled her to see her journey from an entirely new perspective and how it inspired her to help other women facing the same struggles. We also discuss her 12-week program, the benefits of group coaching, and how she is equipping participants with the tools they need to handle painful moments. To learn more about the important work Emily is doing and the power of community, be sure to listen in!
Rena: Hi everyone. We are Rena and Dara, and welcome to Fertility Forward. We are part of the wellness team at RMA of New York, a fertility clinic affiliated with Mount Sinai Hospital in New York City. Our Fertility Ford Podcast brings together advice for medical professionals, mental health specialists, wellness experts, and patients because knowledge is power and you are your own best advocate.
Dara: Today on our podcast we have Emily Getz, who is the founder of Day One. Day One is the first of its kind fertility network that is designed primarily to support those struggling to bring home a baby, but it is a resource also for loved ones who are supporting those who find themselves on this path. Day One is on a mission to take the suffering out of the fertility journey by providing new perspectives, mindset tools, and reframes in an effort to turn infertility on its head and take our power back. Emily then created the Day One podcast, a show dedicated to the unspoken side of fertility, where Emily shares her story and brings together moms, dads, parents-to-be, doctors, specialists, and healers to help break stigmas, normalize the conversation, bring education to the forefront, and most importantly, build a community so the journey doesn't feel so lonely. Emily is also a certified fertility, pregnancy, and infant loss coach, neurolinguistic programming practitioner, and fellow fertility patient. Emily helps redefine the fertility journey by sharing ways of how to integrate the journey into your life so you can still have a life through her innovative coaching programs, outspoken podcast, and also her highly engaged IG channel. Whoa, Emily. Lots going on. I'm so impressed by you. Thanks for being on today.
Emily: Thank you for that, that opening. That was so nice to hear back.
Dara: I'm sure it feels so great to see what you've accomplished in such a short period of time.
Emily: No, thank you so, so lovely. I'm really excited to be here.
Rena: Well, I love your, I love your mission of, of getting your life back. You know, that's definitely sort of how I come at my practice with my patients too. How to make, you know, the fertility journey a piece of your life, not the whole.
Emily: Yeah. I think it's interesting because everyone gets thrown into this experience but no one is teaching us actually how to live the experience. And for a lot of us, we're years deep and we feel like we've had to give up major pieces of our life, which, which is true. And then we're expected to figure out how do we navigate this whole thing with no roadmap. And I really do feel like I've spent a lot of my journey figuring that piece out, and I've realized what a game-changer that can be, and that's really where I've put my efforts and, and where I really think Day One has the most impact is inside this community for sure.
Rena: So tell us more about, you know, Day One and in this community you've created.
Emily: Yeah, so as mentioned, Day One sort of has like three different layers to it. We initially started as a podcast in 2021. I was working corporate for, at the time it was just like a hobby off the side of my desk. I was a, again, at the time, entering my second round of IVF after a late term pregnancy loss in 20, 2019. And I was just like, you know what, no one is. I don't wanna say no one. I, I just, there wasn't any resources at the time that I was feeling was just really taking like a no-bulls--t approach of like, what is going on? Like, yes, there's experts, which I think are amazing, and they come on the podcast and you know, we had talked about all of the nitty gritty, but, you know, there's, it's so layered, it's so complicated. It impacts so much pieces, so much part of our lives that I really wanted a podcast that did just that. And so we've been going for two years. We're gonna hit our hundredth episode quite soon, and it kind of took off. And what happened around that time as well is that I hired a life coach, not fertility. I was just like, I'm sure some of your listeners will relate to this, where I was like, I'm only gonna be happy when I have a baby. Like, I'm, it's only gonna, like, I don't see myself enjoying anything until that happens. And it was co becoming quite dangerous for me because I was losing touch with friends and family, and I was like, maybe I should just hire a coach. Although I was in therapy for a while and I thought that was really great, but I also wanted someone in my corner that was giving me some tools and, and really focusing on forward, like, how are we gonna get through? How are we gonna move through this? And it changed my life and it completely uprooted the way I looked at my journey and I was like, I need to do this for a living. In the background, I've all, all my friends and family have always been like, you should coach, or you should be a therapist, or, I'm always that person. It's always run in the back of my mind. And it was just like all the stars aligned, you know, pain into purpose. And I, I became certified and, and, and built this coaching practice at Day One. And so, you know, Day One I say is sort of this combination, this magical combination, between community coaching and mindset.
Dara: Wow. I love the, you know, putting your pain into purpose. What a beautiful line.
Rena: Yes. I was just thinking that too.
Dara: Yeah that's so Rena.
Rena: I love that, yeah.
Dara: That’s great.
Emily: Yeah. You know, I think that like, you can either say that this journey is happening to you or you can decide it's happening for you. And I understand that that's a really hard pill to swallow when you're in the depths of this journey. I think that that's an easier, you know, said than done. But one of my main narratives or piece of conversations that I typically have with my clients is, we do have a choice whether you want to see that right now or not. We, we do have a choice on how we're gonna live through this. And when you start to wrap your head around that, it opens up an entirely new way for you to still enjoy. Like, we're still here, here on earth, we still have friends. We, we still have a life. It's just somehow along the way it's gotten pushed so deep down for this quest.
Dara: Yeah. I, I I love how you have so many different avenues to really support people. I was listening to your latest IG live and I'm like, I just love how real you are. You know, doing it in your car, and, you know, being vulnerable and you know, oh, my hair. I just, you're real. And I feel like that's such a, you have such an approachable way about yourself that I think can really resonate with people and, and make people feel comfortable when you're discussing topics that are quite uncomfortable. It's great.
Emily: I really appreciate that. Yeah. You know, it's, it's not an easy thing for us to, to have these conversations, but we have to normalize it. And the way we're normalizing it is just to integrate it into the way we're living. And that's been really, really important to me in, in the building of this brand. And again, like I quit 10 years of a very lucrative and important job. I thought I was gonna be doing PR for the rest of my life. So this is not, like, these decisions have not been gone lightly. Like, they're not flippant. Like, I'm really on a mission to teach people they're in this journey, how to live it. It's not easy. This isn't about bypassing how painful it is and how, you know, much sadness and grief and complexity. Like, it's not at all about taking it away, it's just about learning how do I feel those feelings and still be able to be okay?
Rena: Do you find that the work that you're doing is really helping your yourself as you navigate the journey?
Emily: Oh, yeah. I mean, I think anyone that's sort of a healer or a specialist or an expert, you know, they're getting, I hope that they're, they need to continue to evolve so they can be a teacher. You know, they, I really feel like I still have a coach. I still work on my self-development because I have my clients push me to keep evolving so I can be teaching it back. So I'm always inspired, and I think when you hear people say, holy s--t. I, I have, I've, I, my whole state has shifted since working with you also empowers me to keep moving forward. And so it's, so it's circular, circular? Circular. We help each other out.
Dara: I, I find that so true. I mean, that's a big reason why Renaand I do this podcast ourselves and why we're both in our respective fields, you know, supporting people in fertility. It's definitely has helped us, you know, along our journey. It's such a beautiful thing.
Emily: Yes. And the community is so amazing, really, truly. And it's so special because I can meet someone at a coffee shop or like at a wedding, and they come up to me and they're like, I just had a miscarriage. And instantly we're connected. Like, it's, it's, it's, you don't want to be in this, but the connection that you have instantly. I mean, just in this call, we've just met on this call and, and we all know the pain and it kind of pulls us together as people. And I'm grateful for that.
Rena: Well, someone the other day said to me, research is me-search. That is so true. You know, and I think the three of us, you know, I think we definitely find ourselves through the, the work that we do. And I think that you know, as we've often talked about on here so many times in, you know, a helping profession, you wanna be a blank slate. At least that's how I was taught in school. But in this work, a lot of times, it really helps people to know that I've had a shared experience. And I think it sounds like for you, too, in your community, people are really sort of gravitating towards that as well. Like, you get it because you're living it or you've lived it.
Emily: Yeah, I think that's actually the biggest difference between a coach and a therapist. So when you go to therapy, there is that like, you know, therapist is kind of sharing what they're comfortable with, but it's not really about them. You know, it's not about what their experience has been. It's about getting the, the client to asking the right questions, digging in to get them to like re-uncover something that's gonna give them the strength to keep going. And I, I think, I think therapists and coaching, it's like the perfect combination because a coach is actually much more, like, walking the journey beside you. There is more of a peer-to-peer sort of relationship. So I actually come into my sessions a lot more sharing almost everything that's helped me or gotten me to where I am and having that fine balance and making sure I'm asking 'em the right questions. So, so we're building them and they're coming to those realizations themselves. But that was a huge, like, a-ha for me, especially in what I do, right? Because everything's so public for me on social. So I think it'd be really hard if I was an official therapist because they'd be like, but I know everything. So co that's why coaching has been such a natural progression for, for what I'm doing,
Dara: But it's so nice walking side by side that's like, you know, you could definitely visualize what that entails. So that's incredible, this shift in careers and doing something that you feel extra passionate about. And it's true when you, when you feel something so passionately, it really resonates with the people around you and the people that you're supporting.
Emily: Yeah. You know, we had a late term pregnancy loss as, as I mentioned, I was close to six months pregnant. And, and, and just so everyone on the call knows, I also do have a living child at home. He's almost six. And my, my journey through all this has been interesting because I've seen all sides of the coin. I've, I got pregnant super fast with him. We had a great pregnancy. I didn't even know fertility, like this infertility world existed. And then I was thrown into it after this, this loss. And I kind of say we, we named her Ruby. And I, I say, I don't know if, and this is again, this is work that I've just really done on myself, and I think maybe you can see it in what I'm about to say, which is this, that we have a choice on how I wanna look at, look the difficulties that have come through. But I, I say that like Ruby was never supposed to come earth side because she's made way too much impact for me in my life. Like, if it wasn't for her, if it wasn't for what we went through, I would still be where I used to be, which is, was great and fine, and I was happy, but I always was searching for something bigger and a more mission based. And Ruby gave that to me, like she was the catalyst of all of this. And I think that was her point. I think that was the point of her. And so that allows me to have, to give a lot of purpose to my pain that I, that I've said, and why I'm on such a, like, it's a visceral mission for me.
Dara: And to say that out loud, you know, I, I, wow, it's, it's powerful. Even you, I, you know, saw you have so many episodes, you're, you're nearing a hundred, and one of them was on mindset work. And that kinda reminds me in terms of like, it's, it's all in your mindset of how you wanna see things, and you really, I'm not quite sure exactly what you meant, my mindset, which I would love to hear your kind of take on how you coach, but just even like that in itself, what you just shared, really was a positive mindset approach of I can see things in many ways in a negative, which you have every reason to potentially see that in a negative light, but you're choosing to see it for the greater good.
Emily: Yeah. I, I, I, again, I really think mindset is the missing piece of this entire journey. I, my fa, one of my favorite analogies, I love to talk about analogies like in this journey because I think people, when we talk about fertility all the time, without putting an analogy, it's very emotional. People can't talk about it all the time in this way because there's so emotional to it. So I always like to try to think about analogies because we're able to talk about it from a, an emotional state. And my whole thing is that I believe people that are inside this journey is similar to people that prep for the Olympics and you know, athletes that are prepping for the Olympics. They are, they are dedicated, like they are, they are, it's four years to get into an one arena. I mean, that's like dog years for us. But the idea that I'm really trying to communicate right now is that you don't go into the arena if you aren't, if you don't think you're gonna win. And you are trained. You have a mindset coach that is, is training your mind, you know, to take out the distractions of the people to, eye on the prize, and you have a trainer for your body. And you need both of them to go into the Olympics. There's not one Olympian that is not training their mind. And then when they don't get on the podium, if you actually watch any interviews, they never say they're not coming back. They're like, I will figure out how to go back in. And that is mindset work. I mean, the trauma that we do day in and day out, we keep putting ourselves back into when we've lost, we've lost, we've lost. The fact that there's not a mindset coach and a coach that is with us along the way is bananas to me, because the toll emotionally in this journey is exponential and it actually doesn't have to be, but because there's no prioritization around your mindset, you let it go to the wayside and that's when you burn out. So that's why I think mindset and prepping your mind, just like you would prep your body is like, no, is needs to be up there with your supplements and your naturopaths and your therapists and like all of that, because it truly can change your state and then it can change the way you make your decisions in the journey. So when you're from a state of anxiety or stress or anger or sadness over and over and over again, your decisions are coming from that place and it actually can prolong your journey because you need more breaks. It's, it's quite interesting. They actually say people that stop their journey mostly aren't from a financial standpoint, they're stopping it because they're emotionally, like, done.
Dara: I believe that.
Rena: Yeah. I love, I love your analogy of, you know, the Olympians and training your mind and, and totally. You know, we talk a lot in here about sort of getting in the arena and throwing yourself in there.
Emily: Yeah, yeah. It's real. I really believe that to be true. We're athletes. We are training all the time for this.
Dara: You are definitely the queen of analogies. I, as a fellow Torontonian, when I found out that you're from Toronto like myself, and I saw you wrote a phenomenal article in the Toronto Star. I really highly recommend people finding it online. It's just, and you, and you use the analogy of a portage, which, you know, being a fellow camper, going on a great trip, know that, like, but it was just such a beautiful way that you explained it. I was like, wow, is she a writer? Like I, I feel like, you know, you definitely could write a book if you wanted to.
Emily: Thank you. Yeah, well, we'll see. But yeah, it's, that's a great one too. There, there's a lot of different ways that, again, like that we can look at it. And I think that mostly my point is, is that when we're in the depths of the grief and depths of the pain, it's very difficult to think there's other perspectives other than that. And so you kind of have to be open and willing to, to get on board that there could be, and there is, because I'm tell I'm, I am currently in my fourth round of IVF right now, so a lot of coaches that, or people that are creating types of programs that I'm creating, they're done. Or they've, you know, they're, they're, have a partner, they have a business partner, they have, they have a lot of teamwork that they're doing this together and they're kind of feeding it. Like, I've built this program in real time for what I think is needed now while in the midst of my journey. And so I'm like practicing what I'm preaching. I'm not, I'm not, I don't have my happy ending and then I'm saying that this is, this works. This is, this works because I'm in it right now and I'm doing the work that I've put together. And so just to like loop back a little bit, like I, I’m telling you that there are other ways and other choices, you, you could look at your circumstance if you're open to it, that would unlock a less heavy way of experiencing this journey.
Dara: That's a nice way of putting it.
Rena: Yeah. I, and I find it so interesting and what makes, I think your podcast also very unique is that you bring on your husband, you bring on your family members, you make it really real, like, as you said, in real time. Like, I think it shows a vulnerability from many different angles and different perspectives that you just don't see every day. And I find that fascinating. I I, I think it's great, like bringing that human side to it, which you mentioned, you said it's great. I have the doctors and I have a lot of the experts, which I think are very important. But it's great to see that you also have that other side of, you know, you, you are the, in many ways you're this expert who've really, you know, you know, are being trained in, in coaching, but also hearing it from other people who are just kind of, I wouldn't, they're not tagging along, but again, different angle and how they're coping with and how maybe you guys can help each other out in the process.
Emily: Yeah. I think that we're all, I mean, I'm really fortunate because I have a community and I have family and friends that are supporting me and that I am comfortable having them come on this ride. And not everyone has that, you know, my mom came on, she has her own fertility story and we talked about like the mother daughter and, you know, the grief that she takes on. And as a mother or a parent of somebody that's going through this, they're kind of just in, they don't know where to put their own grief for all of it as well. So I also, you know, I'm, I was very pregnant when we lost Ruby, so there was this kind of also gateway for me because I felt like, well, everyone knows we want a second baby now, so I don't need to keep it secret like to my work or to anything like that. So I also was like, I have this opportunity to talk about this openly because I already was open and I don't think everyone has that luxury either.
Rena: Yeah. Is that, I mean, how, you know, you have kinda this public or very public platform now. How is that, you know, sort of for you to be open, you know, in terms of your partnership or your family knowing? Sounds like they're super supportive.
Emily: Yeah, I think there's like a really fine balance. I've done it a bunch of different ways where like we've told them our transfer dates and then we haven't told them transfer. Like we've tried all different ways around it, but ultimately, again, I think my journey's a lot easier because everyone knows like, that's just the truth. And, and that I don't take for granted how sort of like, I, I don't know if I'd be able to do this if I didn't have a husband who was like, sure, no problem. Like, tell everyone when you're ovulating, you know? Like, like Day One. There's no way around it. Like, Day One would not be here without certain people being okay with me being this public, like mostly my husband.
Rena: I mean, and what a, what a blessing that he's supportive. And I mean, I, I would imagine that it's sort of healing for him too in a way, you know, that he also experienced this loss. And then to watch you kind of build this and rise from it and get solace and comfort from it, I would imagine is, you know, benefiting both of you as well.
Emily: Yeah. Yeah. It's, it's, again, it's sort of having something traumatic happen and, and what do you, what do you wanna do about it? What do you wanna do with it? And Evis he's sort of like all in, he's Ev’s all in. I gotta give it to him.
Rena: That's so wonderful.
Rena: So tell us, you know, for someone who joins their, your community, like what do they get? What do they expect? What's it, what's it like?
Emily: Yeah, so the, this has been, my program's a 12-week program and it's been in the makings for about a year and a half. I had other offerings and like left them and I've done a ton of market research on this. And you know what, like, I'll say it again, who knows, things shift and change and evolve. So, but for now, what it is, it's a 12-week program and you come in and essentially every Tuesday night, I call them vent sessions. So they're group coaching sessions and you have access to me, it's 90-minute call and it's very structured. So what I wanna say is, this is not a support group. This is meant to be an investment. So when you are done the 12 weeks with me, there's an actual shift and a transformation that you are making in your journey. Not to say that support groups of, you know, hundreds of people are amazing and valuable, and I, I for sure think there's a place, but the difference with my program is that you are learning, there are tools inside the program. There's modules inside the programs. There's full an eight week lesson that you're doing inside this program that's actually teaching you how to navigate this legitimately.
Rena: Oh I love, that's like a mindset shift.
Emily: Yes. That is you. The, the idea is that after those 12 weeks, there is an a transformation and you are part of a community of people who get it inside a closed group or on the circle platform, which is very different than Facebook. And the idea is when you've graduated the 12 weeks, you get to stay inside the pro the community for a whole year. So I think with other programs, it's like you get connected and you love everyone, the program, then the program's over and you're like, what do I do? And that's actually not here. This is just your community stays with you. And of course if you wanted to stay in the program, you can, but the idea is instead of a membership style where you're kind of taking, you're coming in, you're coming out, I think at 12 week the idea of the a three month experience, you are committed, you are in there. That, that's the, the idea because everyone that comes on the calls, they are asking questions, there's hot seat coaching in there, experts come inside the program. There's a lot of other bonuses and materials through the 12 week experience. But truthfully, it's, it's to have another voice in your ear. Like, I just think it's very hard to make a shift when you don't have like a different voice in your ear sharing something new that's giving you a bit of like, a-ha moment. So it's pretty powerful inside. And it's rolling so people can join whenever you know they want. It's, I initially started it actually as a cohort and it just felt, this is what I mean in, in the sense of things have shifted because I like keep me up at night being like, but what if someone comes to me and they really wanna get in? And I'm like, sorry, you can't, I just didn't like that feeling. So it's totally open and people, it's a rolling experience and a rolling program and it's meant to fill the gap around mindset.
Rena: I love that. I, I I really love that. I love that it's, you know, I'm all for support groups and, and meeting other people, going through a shared experience. I think that's super powerful. But I, you know, I always tell people it's, you know, you wanna be careful because you don't want it to be just a session of people complaining or being victims. Yes. So it sounds like yours is really giving some tangible takeaways and really setting people up for success, giving them tools to power them forward.
Emily: Yeah. And you know, everything comes up in these sessions. You know, disappointment of how people are supported from their family and friends, or pregnancy announcements, anxieties around injections for some people for the first time. Some people have been in, in this journey for years and years and are dealing with like the time passing by and why I think group coaching is really powerful and, and I don't think anyone is act, I know that no one is doing group coaching in this way and in the industry because I think it's scary where you think you're gonna get on these calls and get triggered, right. By other people sharing, which I think is always a risk. But what I say for people that are joining is you actually hear yourself through the people being coached. And so a lot of, I've actually had, a few people have taken my program, they've never put their hand up to be hot seat coached. And at the end they were like, I just got so much out of everyone else else's shares. I just didn't feel, I wasn't someone that felt called to do it, but I heard myself through everyone else. And so I kind of say that sharing or getting hot seat is a gift to the community. It's a gift to the people on those calls because there's always a golden nugget that comes through that people can take away from it. And because of how isolated this experience is, when you hear other people's pain points, you, you don't feel alone and you're relating to it. And we have the chat that's open and it's, it's a very powerful way of being coached through the community through this experience.
Dara: I've never heard that term, I guess, cause I'm, I'm, you know, as a dietician, it's not something… hot seat coach. So does that mean someone sitting in the hot seat sharing their story and then having you coach them and then everyone witnessing?
Emily: Yes. So essentially it's like a zoom call and then you would put your virtual hand up and I would pin you and I would be pinned. And it's like the, it would be, yeah, it feel like it was just a one-on-one, but everyone else is watching. And they would say, you know, like, I am really struggling. My sister-in-law just announced her pregnancy and she did it in a really s--tty way and we haven't spoken in a week and I have so much anxiety and I'm like, let's, and I would coach through that. And so it is a totally new way of getting support.
Rena: Oh, I love that. I really love that.
Dara: Yeah, I feel like I, I feel like community work and, and having that community base is so important in life, but especially, you know, in these situations I think it can be very bonding. And I think, you know, as you mentioned in, of course every one of our journeys are different, but there are often common themes of feelings and emotions that people can resonate with. So I, I think that's so lovely that you're doing this and, and really helping other people out and as you said, also helping out in, in your healing process as well.
Emily: Yeah, it's really, it's really beautiful and the reason we did it at 12 weeks is I think there's been people that have been working with me for years, which it's like, you know, you don't want to be with me. I think that's the really hard part about having a business in this space is that no one really wants to be there. You know, any other coaching group, any other industry, everyone's like on these zooms being like, oh my God, I'm like self-discovery or like, I'm investing and learning how to do X, Y, and Z and people don't. They're like, I really have to sign up for a coaching program. Like, I don't wanna do this. Like, no one wants to be there. And so that's why I actually, I think 12 weeks is really important because when you're in a membership and you're constantly on these calls and you start to see cohorts come in and out and get pregnant and in and out and get pregnant, you start to feel like, I can't believe I'm still here. And that is the differentiator for me, which is when you're done working with me, you have what you need to take on the pregnancy announcements to take on the painful moments. You, you know what to do. You have resources to actually handle them. So if you don't want to be part of this community, like for a longstanding amount of time, you don't have to be because you have actually have what you need.
Rena: I love that. I mean, I love your philosophy, I love your model. What a really fantastic thing to sort of come out of your own trauma. You know, we are so lucky to have so many guests on this podcast and meet so many people that have taken really, really hard experiences and then, you know, instead of, why is this happening to me? What is this teaching me? And then really risen up.
Emily: Yeah. I think again, this community is just amazing. And I think majority of people inside of this community are here because they have some experience. And again, that's why we're so connected, like instantly. And I just think the fertility world, it's, we're just at the beginning. Like there's so many innovations from the support community, from the medical community, patient care community, like things are starting to shift and it's just, it's cool like being at the forefront of that. Especially here in Canada. I find Canadians are a bit slow. We're slow. We like everyone else to try things first and then it's
Dara: We’ve come a a long way. I feel like Toronto has come a long way in the last couple of,
Emily: Oh, Toronto's been to 100%. But I think as a, I, I just think that like if you look at what the US is doing and what UK is doing in Israel, like in our world, even from a support perspective, like day one is the only really thing that exists in Canada, but there's a lot of different versions of what I do ish all over the world. It's just I find Canada to be a little bit more slow. Well, not slow, just, I don't know, I don't wanna down as I love Canada, I love Toronto, but I, but I think there's a bigger gap here.
Dara: But it's good for you that you are at the forefront of this.
Rena: That's amazing. They're lucky to have you. Totally. You saw me when you're filling it and they're lucky that you are pioneering this.
Emily: Yeah, well it's nice because day one, because it's virtual can service like everyone. We have people and clients from all over. So it's been really nice definitely to do it. But like any startup, you're always starting locally and everyone in Toronto has been unbelievable. I'm, I'm so grateful for our partners and for the support. I was just like a little girl being like, I'm gonna start a podcast
at the time.
So what, let us know how our listeners can find you. It sounds like anyone can sign up sort of worldwide, as you said you're virtual. So how can people find you to join your community?
Emily: Yeah I'm day one, the number one, not written out one day one fertility.com and day one fertility on Instagram and you can DM me or you can book. I offer like a free 30 minute discovery call if they just wanna get, get to know me and, and get a little bit of that chemistry going before making like an investment like that.
Rena: wesome. And I, if I remember from when you and I connected in initially, another great thing about your program is that it's, it's super low cost, right?
Emily: Yeah. So it is $450 American and $650, but it comes to about $650 Canadian for the six weeks.
Rena: Okay. That's, I mean, and that's awesome, you know, because you said like investments I didn't want listeners to think, you know now.
Emily: No,fair enough.
Rena: Rhis program's $5,000. I mean your program I think is super reasonable, which is incredible. I mean, what a, what a benefit also.
Emily: Thank you. Yes. And we have a payment plan as well. So I know fertility treatments already are just so expensive and I get it, even investing this amount can feel, and I say investment cause I think that again, I kind of come back to the fact that it feels like no matter what, like even $50 to fertility is like take, you're taking from one pool of fun and you take it outta the pool of fun and you have to put it into your fertility and it feels like a resentment almost every time you have to like pay for something. So I do think people, I say investment cuz you are investing in your mind. You, there is a, there is a sense of like understanding that you, the, the how transferable these skills will be outside of your fertility. And that's, that's been a big piece of the way that I've built the program is technically you could kind of put in any piece of content to the modalities like any hardships, you could just plug it into what you're gonna learn in here. Let your fertility, this is another big piece. Like let your fertility be the gateway to learning and like to elevating your consciousness and learning how to actually handle different hardships. You might as well get that.
Dara: That's a great way of putting it. And I, and I totally agree with that and I'm sure Renafeels, feels the same. Yes. It helps us on our path to expanding our consciousness. So it's yeah. Such a gift.
Emily: Yes. Thank you.
Dara: Well we are so happy that you're on. And how we like to end our podcast is with words of gratitude. So what are you grateful for today?
Emily: Oh man, what am I? Well, I I'm actually, it's rainy here and this is not gonna be a popular opinion, but sometimes I am, I am grateful for a bit of a cozy day. I, I get better work done when I can like sit. So I'm gonna just be grateful that I can sit here and be in the rain a little bit today. That's my gratitude.
Dara: I love it.
Emily: Simple but easy.
Dara: Perfect. We, we, we get your weather usually day later, so, so we need to expect rain tonight or tomorrow. Thank you very much.
Emily: Yeah, you just got the fires, you got the smoke.
Rena: I was gonna say thanks for the wildfires. Thanks for the air quality.
Emily: Yeah, sorry. Usually we're pretty good over here. I know. My gosh. No. Yeah. That's so nice. Yeah.
Dara: Rena, what about you?
Rena: I'm grateful for perspective, I will say. So that was, I talk about running a lot. That's my big thing. And I've been taken out with an injury very unfortunately, so I cannot run and I'm super grateful that I'm just managing it and I'm just swimming with the current and I'm going with the flow and I'm being creative of what I can do. So I'm grateful for that. What about you, Dara?
Dara: And you're smiling Rena, which I mean, I know how, how you know, your love for running is pretty deep.
Rena: It's deep. You know what Dara, I've discovered the ellipti-go, which for those of you that don't know what that is, it is an outdoor elliptical machine. So I am
Dara: Oh, I've seen it has. It's so cool.
Rena: I'm out there trying that out. So,
Dara: You know, this talk of healing and coaching, I wanna give a shout out to my healers and coaches that I've had over the years. But you know, definitely most recently I I, I went to, to speak to my healer slash coach today, one of them. And so nice when you leave feeling more like yourself, you know, in your body, in your heart. And it's a great reminder, like for me it's a great reminder to be more in the moment and yeah. I'm in the moment now and I am just, yeah, grateful to be here and to have you on as, as a guest. I feel like it's like serendipitous cause there's so many connections that we have and so happy you're you're part of our circle.
Emily: Yeah. This is so nice. You guys had great gratitudes. I'm like, I'm happy for rain. I swear we get deeper in the work that I do.
Dara: We've got that too. It's, but that's real. That's what also I'm telling you, everyone check out her IG lives because you're just real. You're not putting on a show. You are who you are and I think because of that it really does. Yeah. There's a realness to it that I think people can really, you know, it's, it's approachable and I think that's great and that's, you shouldn't be anything else. The rain is something that's beautiful and it's part of nature.
Emily: Yeah, there you go. Thank you. No, no, no. I've been doing Instagram live at 2:30 PM Eastern time also I'll say to give people, I coach on them so people can go in the chat and tell me that they're, what they're going through and then I can coach them like on the Instagram live so people can just get a sense of what this work is about. Cause I think a big thing that I continue, struggle is the wrong word, but my roadblock sometime in this work is like, what is a coach and what are you teaching and why do I need it? And, and what does that feel like? And so I'm really committed to these weekly Instagram Lives just to like share what that feels like.
Rena: Love that, love that. Well thank you so much for taking the time to come on today and share your story and your work and everything with our listeners. I know you are such a valuable resource and you know, we wish you all the best and what you are currently going through right now too. You know, I think it's always interesting when you're kind of both a patient and a professional at the same time. When worlds collide, that can be super difficult. So, you know, just make sure you take care of yourself and you know, give yourself grace during this time.
Emily: Thank you. Thank you so much.
Dara: Thank you so much for listening today. And always remember: practice gratitude, give a little love to someone else and yourself, and remember you are not alone. Find us on Instagram @fertility_forward and if you're looking for more support, visit us at www.rmany.com and tune in next week for more Fertility Forward.